Anxiety is an integral part of our time. Anxiety experience not only adults but also children. It is necessary to understand at what age and what happens to the alarm, there is a difference between boys and girls anxiously. Knowledge of trends narrows the search area. In preschool and primary school age boys tend to be more anxious than girls. The level of anxiety of boys and girls is aligned to 9-11 years. This is due to constitutional peculiarities. When comparing the level of anxiety of boys and girls, the girls after 12 years the level of anxiety is higher than that of boys, the boys begin to decrease anxiety and increase in girls.
Over a period of 10 years from 7-8 to 17-18 years anxiety increases by 2 times. Generally, after 11 years of anxiety in children increases sharply and reaches a maximum of 20 years. According to statistics anxiety is reduced to 30 years. All this speaks of anxiety as a personality trait, rather than situational anxiety arose. The second rise of anxiety begins after about 60 years, when there is the fear of illness and death.
The content of the alarm also varies depending on the sex of the child. There are boyish and girlish anxiety. The older the children are, the more the difference can be traced.
Anxiety girls most often associated with other people, relationships with others, the ability to quarrels, separation, family health. For example, I was so excited when my grandmother bad when my mother is late! But in the 11-12 year old girls are afraid of fantastic monsters, monsters, dead. Girls can pursue archaic fears – fear of fire, heights, thunderstorms, darkness. By 15-16 years of severity of these experiences is greatly reduced, and at the forefront anxiety associated with other people. Anxiety boys more connected with the fear of physical injury, punishment, violence, accidents. The source of fear and anxiety can be parents, teachers, the police, and so on. D.
This difference is important when the child upbringing and correction as that acts on the girl, did not make an impression on the boy. For example, trying to save the child from the bad, you need to work on the rise of anxiety. On the contrary, before an important event – the examination, control, performance, competition is necessary to work to reduce anxiety. For the girls: "My attitude to you will not change, even if you do not get" excellent "…" For the boys (eg. In the case of the control): "The evaluation will be taken into account in the quarter."
The level of anxiety and anxiety depends on education, the situation and genetic predisposition. Anxiety (as a personality trait) above that person has a higher sensitivity. In difficult situations, when there is no one to support or not well informed about what is happening, anxiety higher than in favorable conditions.
For anxious children, especially at a young age is not suitable formula: "Come into the water – float". Do not float this child and will survive the great fear of drowning. In anxious people in a stressful situation, the first reaction – a reaction stop. For these children, not just children, it is important in the gradual adaptation to a difficult situation. If your child is afraid of the dark and insists to sleep in your presence, you can not turn off the light and go – on the principle pokrichit and fall asleep. It is necessary to gradually accustom the child to be alone. First, you are present near the crib, then you are in the next room, and then leave the door open to his room, etc.
The main principle in the upbringing of the child's anxiety: "I'm here for a safety net." Or, for example, a child's fear of public speaking, read the poem may not immediately appear tears … You can simply rehearse the kitchen, casually ask the child: "You know, I forgot the second line of the poem, you do not remind? ". Let's tell the doll poem, and then a neighbor, and so on. N. For the child it is important to get into a situation of success.
For anxious children important experiences of successes, some failures in the background – with a calm and friendly analysis of why did not happen. From adults it depends on the conditions in which the child develops, favorable or not. It depends on adults and that will grow if the child calm and confident person, or be anxious personality.